Things
can get more than a little complicated when the green monster makes its
way into your relationship. Your guy feels jealous, you insist there’s
nothing to worry about, but he can’t seem to get over it — sound
familiar? Here’s how to handle it:
Consider the source.
Put
yourself in his shoes for a minute. Have you been acting a bit flirty
with your coworker? Cozying up to one of his pals when you go out?...
Even
if your actions have seemed harmless, take the time to step back and see
why your guy may be feeling this way.
Focus on the fix.
If
you’re not careful, talking about the issue can quickly turn into a
negative back-and-forth that goes nowhere. Rather than rehashing the
problem again and again, steer the conversation toward action. Ask what
you can do to ease his insecurities, and come up with a few small,
simple acts that may help him feel better.
Don’t dish to your friends.
When
you fight with your guy, it’s tempting to call your friends to
complain, but that’s only going to make matters worse. Respect your
relationship by keeping the issue between you and him.
Make it about him.
Chances
are, the jealousy issue is actually about attention. If he felt like he
was getting plenty of attention from you, then he may not worry about
how you interact with everyone else. Make a point to show him extra
affection when you’re out with other people — when you build up your
relationship, you’ll build up his confidence and hopefully ease the
issue.
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